Meet Coach Helen
My Journey To Happiness and Empowerment
From Sadness and Heartbreak to Happiness, Healing and Empowerment
My journey began over three decades ago, rooted in the shared passions of theatre and music within our close-knit community. Together with my husband—my partner in both life and art—we built a harmonious life, underscored by our love for the piano and singing, and enriched by our two incredible children. For 32 years, our duet seemed unbreakable, a perfect ensemble of love and mutual respect.
However, the script of our lives took an unexpected turn at Christmas 2022, when my husband left to start a new chapter with someone else. This profound betrayal, accompanied by the acceptance of this new woman by our mutual friends, left me isolated and broken, questioning the authenticity of connections I once held dear.
The subsequent departures of our adult children in February 2023 amplified the solitude, turning the once vibrant family home into a silent mausoleum of memories. During this period of profound solitude and reflection, I confronted an acute, physical manifestation of heartbreak, learning first-hand the depths of emotional and physical pain that accompany such profound loss.
This crucible of grief and abandonment, however, became the catalyst for a profound transformation. It led me to seek coaching, where I not only found strategies for coping but also discovered a passion for guiding others through their struggles. I immersed myself in extensive training, becoming a certified relationship coach, life coach, and therapeutic art coach. This journey wasn’t just about finding personal healing but also about forging a path to help other women navigate their crises, find their happiness, and avoid the pitfalls that once ensnared me.
Now, I dedicate myself to supporting women through similar challenges—transforming heartbreak into a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. My coaching approach integrates lessons from my own experiences with specialised training, offering a roadmap for women to navigate their own paths from darkness towards light.
If you find yourself on a similar path, feeling lost or betrayed, know that there is a way through. Join me in discovering how coaching can illuminate your path to healing and happiness, helping you to rebuild a life marked not by what you have lost, but by the beauty you have within and ahead of you.
How Coaching Saved My Life
I found a supportive Relationship Coach who understood my journey.
It was during this dark and desolate period that I discovered Laura Doyle's podcasts. Her words were like a beacon in my storm, showing me that I wasn't alone and that transformation was within reach. Despite my limited resources, I joined the Ridiculously Happy Wife program, followed by the coach training program. This was the start of a profound metamorphosis.
The lessons were hard but necessary. I realised I had lost myself - "my Helen" - in the midst of life's demands. I had neglected my own needs, lost sight of my self-worth, and unknowingly pushed away those who cared for me. I had become someone I no longer recognised, consumed by control and devoid of joy. My health had deteriorated; I was overweight and depressed, a shadow of the vibrant woman I once was.
But with each step in Laura Doyle's program, I reclaimed a piece of myself. I found a supportive community of women who understood my journey and encouraged my growth. I learned the importance of self-care, of finding joy in my own company, and of being responsible for my own happiness. Today, I stand healthier, happier, and more confident. I am rebuilding my life, one day at a time, with a newfound sense of purpose.
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When my husband left me, my world fell apart. I had not realised how co-dependent I was until then. I couldn't function at home, at work, or socially without him by my side. Without him, I felt reduced to nothing, unsure of how to continue living. This may sound dramatic, but that was my reality. I didn’t want to be dead, but the thought of living without the man I loved seemed unbearable.
What I want to make clear is that I was married to a wonderful, loving, and caring man. He adored and cherished me for over three decades. Our children had an amazing dad, and our family was solid. I was lucky to have had a happy, fulfilling marriage with a truly loving, caring, clever, and talented man.
“It’s like you’re dealing with a death. You’re grieving,” many have told me. In a way, they are right; I am grieving and experiencing everything that entails. Yet, I see my husband living his life without me. His eyes, once filled with love for me, now look sad, confused, and distant. Had he died, at least I would have known he loved me, and we would be reunited one day.
Eighteen months later, I am still triggered by events like anniversaries and birthdays. I find myself crying over seemingly trivial things, like dusting a shelf in the hallway that we bought together to display an antique clock he mounted on the wall—it took him years to figure out how to put up shelves without drilling numerous holes. In the past, I loved receiving Facebook notifications of memories, but now they only remind me of what I have lost.
I am sharing my story so publicly to assure you that with support and a loving community, it does get easier. My friends, family, doctor, and my coach quite literally saved my life.
Like many women before me, the 6 Intimacy Skills have provided me with a roadmap to follow. My coach guided me along this journey and continues to do so. Yes, I still receive regular coaching!
If any of this resonates with you, know that you are not alone. Through coaching, I can help you understand the 6 Intimacy Skills, share my experiences, and guide you on your journey to happiness and the fulfilling relationship you desire.